"I feel empathy for your mother because a negative person should enjoy their life"

I can't stand how... I'm sorry but, some therapists are just fucking braindead. I'm AMAZED by how fucking stupid some of them are. I'm getting so tired of defending myself to each one of them. They have the IQ of a crayon! I'm not kidding. I'm sure there are some good therapists out there. But then you have others who completely lack knowledge. I will never know how they succeeded in getting their job. No common sense. No self awareness. It's disturbing. I'm so sorry to anyone who has had their experiences gaslighted by such awful therapists. I really am. I cannot fucking wrap my head around how LUDICROUS they come across. How they can overlook your abusive situation so easily and still find something positive to comment on about our parents. Makes me sick to my stomach! Are some of these nutjobs intentionally acting dumb in order to provoke you?? Because they sure are doing a damn good job!This one I had recently talked to unironically gave me a pep talk about "I feel SO MUCH empathy for your mother. The reason she is negative is because she can't experience joy in life and everyone should able to experience that. I can relate to why people are bullies. I understand why they are that way, but I don't have to agree with them." I'm sorry who is the client again, me or my parents? I thought I was coming to you to talk about what I WANT. MY GOALS. How about the victims on here who are constantly suffering under their narc parents control??? We try so hard to reach out to people outside this community and you just keep denying denying denying us support. Our feelings are wrong. Our traumas do not matter. Our tears are basically useless. We force ourselves to suffer in silence, putting up with the emotional distress that our parents cause us on a daily basis and that means NOTHING to you!These poor kids/young adults who are crying in silence, what did they do to deserve all this pain? All this uncessarsay torture??? And you fucking ignore that. What the hell is wrong with you? I mean it. I see all these images and videos on the internet regarding emotional/physic abuse, children crying, hiding their head between their knees in fear of their parents. A few of my friends from other countries, they have been sharing their traumas with me. There is no doubt in my mind that their parents were awful, awful people. I'd never think otherwise. They tell me how their parents would beat their hand with a wooden spoon until it bled. Their parents stole from them, forcefully gave their kids haircuts, and threatened them with lines like "Sleep with one eye open." I comforted them immediately. If you can't see anything wrong with that, you are clearly mentally disturbed and need help. One of my friends is constantly uploading videos of him having panic attacks because of what he went through. I want to be there with him, hug him. He's on the verge of becoming homeless now. For you to defend a parent who consistently enjoys inflicting pain on their kids like that... is shameful. Shameful. Ugh, makes me so sick!😡😡😡😡😡😡 via /r/raisedbynarcissists https://ift.tt/34rpYno