Wednesday, October 14, 2020

I (20M) want to repair my relationship with my parents before it's too late, but I don't know how.


My relationship with my parents isn't broken, but it feels more like we've fell out of love. I still live at home and am going to college, but I avoid talking to them and avoid pretty much all interaction. We don't make an effort to talk to each other, and feels like we're going through the motions of our relationship.This is my fault just as much as it is theirs, and I don't really blame anyone, but still feel extremely guilty. I was always an independent kid, and drifted away from my parents in my teens. I've always felt that they've treated me younger than I am, even now they still talk to me like a child.They never tried to make a genuine connection to me as a human, and I never reached out to them either. They don't seem like real people to me, they're just my parents (if that makes any sense) and to them, I'm sure I'm just their child, it feels like a superficial relationship.My friends talk about how great their relationship with their fathers are, I'm jealous of that, I literally don't know anything about my father other than the very few superficial interests we have in common. I don't know anything about his life, what foods he likes, what music he enjoys, etc. I'm living in a house with two strangers, and I feel alone at home.Two years ago I began a relationship with an amazing girl, and throughout our relationship I've learned that I have no idea how to process my own emotions and communicate them to people, probably because I never learned it as a child, I just emotionally shut down. She's stuck by me and helped me grow as a person and confront many issues in my life, even though I still have trouble communicating.I want to have a relationship with my parents, it's something I crave, but I don't know how to. I don't know how to talk to my parents anymore, or communicate how I'm feeling to them and I don't know if they're capable of healthily processing emotions themselves (because they never taught me to). I'm planning on moving out in a year or two, I want to fix this before it's too late and I never see or hear from them again. via /r/relationship_advice https://ift.tt/3dpVSVs

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