Handling Christmas?

Hi!You can go look at my previous posts on this page for the full story, but my husband and I have recently started to reconnect with his 6 year old son, who lives with his mother (biological as well) and adoptive father (her husband legally adopted him a couple years ago).The holidays are coming up, and his son's parents have 3 kids of their own after him.For parents who have a mix of adoptive and biological children, how do you have birth parents handle gift-giving at Christmas time? For this year at least, they want us to buy presents for all of the kids. They also said if his or my parents give gifts to his son, they need to do the same for the other 3. Which, obviously, we will respect.I'm just curious how other families have handled it, or what you think is best? I'm not asking this so I can argue or anything, because above all we recognize the importance of respecting his parents' wishes. The 4 of us just have a very open line of communication, and they sometimes ask what our thoughts or findings are too (which is very nice of them).Is it better to have it be a united thing of keeping all the kids on equal ground in that way, or better to set a precedent now of how some things may be different while they're young? I'm also asking for mine and my husband's future children. TIA! via /r/Adoption https://ift.tt/34gIMWb