FIL is dying and JNMIL is refusing to let my husband see him one last time.

Quick filler for background, it’s been a while since my last post and you can check my history for more. My(31f) husband(43) and I have 4 kids one of which is now in college. Yes I know it’s a big age gap between me and SO. please put that aside for the moment. I have 3 stepchildren and one biological child. On to the issue.....We found out about 5ish months ago that not only does FIL have lung cancer, it is at stage 4. My husband and I were planning on buying a house probably next year or year after. On July 4th weekend we went to the house they had bought 1 1/2 years ago for a visit. MIL admitted that they are majorly in debt and practically begged us to buy the house since they had been try to sell it for a while. We weren’t ready yet, we haven’t saved enough yet but it’s his father and he needs help. We agree. We get the loan and since we have the same bank we got the sale done quickly. We still ended up going to my parents for help. (That relationship has been fixed though I can’t remember if I ever post anything about that and it’s not really prevalent to this story.) Our move in date was the 1st of September.FIL’s truck and boat AND MIL’s car were left at our new house. MIL acts like we stole them. SO is trying to get FIL to go to a doctor for treatment, he was even trying to contact the VA to get help. The oldest brother in law (here in called Jr.) got involved and the vehicle issue was taken care of. Jr. and his wife convinced them to move in with them in a different state. Last we heard from anyone was the far off plan to get the entire family to Jr.’s house for winter holiday. Against pandemic protocol but again FIL is dying.Now for today. Today our oldest was contacted by Jr. saying FIL is in hospice. No call to us, our daughter. SO calls FIL’s phone and gets nothing. Calls his mother’s phone, nothing. Calls Jr.’s, nothing. Tries Jr.’s wife and his second oldest brother(Sarge for story) picks up. Sarge has been stationed in POLAND for months and got back in a pandemic! His youngest brother is there. The brother who in a fit of rage tried to get FIL arrested because of I don’t even remember I wasn’t there during that confrontation. SO was there during it though. The family hasn’t talk to him in years. Sarge tells SO that he is not welcome to see his own father on his deathbed.My SO breaks down. I have never seen him like this. Ever. I try Jr’s wife and get her. MIL is mad at SO because somewhere in her deranged mind she thought that we were going to pay her the price of the house AND take over her mortgage. I got that from Jr’s wife. Then MIL comes on the phone and tells me that if SO had contacted Jr. earlier FIL wouldn’t be on his deathbed. She is blaming SO for FIL refusing to go to the doctor. She is not even letting him have a video call so SO can say goodbye, I love you.No one is answering any of our calls. The last message was “try talking to me in 6 months”. The message was forwarded by Sarge.I don’t know what to do or how to help my husband. via /r/JUSTNOMIL https://ift.tt/2Smth9W