I'm so confused, I've read a lot of conflicting or just vague enough stuff to not be quite sure and can't find what I'm looking for in the gov site. I personally think the rules exist for a reason, but I also have big windows and nosy neighbours and don't fancy our chances.Simplified, I live with my husband, child (2 yrs), sister and her child (10 months), household of 5 under current rules. Sister's child's father (BIL for the sake of simplicity), who she is still in a relationship with, lives with his parents nearby and can't live with us for mental health reasons. Our mum is single and lives in Germany.Question 1: Can BIL visit his child at our house?My understanding: Yes, socially distanced from rest of household (gathering would be 6 or less) or child could be dropped off with him and then dropped back because children can move between separated parents.Question 2: Can BIL stay overnight?My understanding: No. He's not from a single-person household so can't form a social bubble with us or stay overnight. Being a parent is irrelevant.Question 3: Sister believes BIL has 'right of visit' because of their child so can come and go as he pleases. Is that a thing?My understanding: No.Question 4: Assuming #4 isn't bollocks, can BIL visit/stay the night at the same time as our mum?My understanding: Only if the gathering count was 5 or less. So could visit during the day if we made ourselves scarce, but couldn't stay the night because nobody is planning on vacating for the night.Question 5: What exactly defines 'gathering'? Can I just sit in my bedroom and sleep through this mess?My understanding: :(Question 6: Assuming I'm more or less right about the rules, how do I explain to my sister without sounding like a petty arsehole that we turn a blind eye to her bending the rules normally, but a gathering of 7 is a gathering of 7 and we all just have to get over it and follow the bloody rules so we can we see our mum for the first time in 9 months without risking a fine?Happy to be told I'm wrong on any of the points. I think babies being included in the rule of 6 is ridiculous and maybe nobody cares enough to fine us, but we're saving to buy a house so money is really tight and extra valuable. Plus my dog has already tried to seriously injure himself this year so I don't want to even vaguely risk any more hefty bills. Having said that, this whole living situation has been awful for everyone, we're each other's only physically close family, so I don't want to get to get in a fight over it. "Do what you want but you're paying the fine," sounds just a teeny but antagonist to me.Sorry if I sound calloused in this, I really do sympathise with the unfortunate situation they're in and mostly it's nobody's fault, but I also think their bending of the rules is a spit in the face for all the people who have been forced to stay away from their kids throughout this. We turn a blind eye, but my husband and I are not okay with it. via /r/UKParenting https://ift.tt/34gINJJ
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