My wife and I recently moved back to a moderate sized town in the Appalachians. The area can be a bit touristy and when we lived here the first time we noted (half jokingly) that people only wanted to visit us during the fall when the leaves are changing.Last week my sister texted me to let me know that her and my nephew's dad (they've been in a on-again-off-again relationship for years and I don't know how to refer to him) were going to be in town sight seeing and that she would love to see me and my family. She then asked if it was cool if they stayed the night. She gave us 12 hours notice but I said it was cool, I didn't really care. This was during the week and my wife and I both had work the next day and my kid had school.We cleaned sheets, cleaned up the house (which we still haven't completely unpacked yet) bought some frozen pizzas, and prepared for company. The night went fine, we watched Netflix most the night and the next day they left around noon.Fast-forward to this week, my parents are supposed to come visit. Given that we've moved around a bit the last few years I typically only see my parent's a handful of times a year. Turns out, my sister had asked my mom if she and my nephew could come with them this weekend.The conversation went something like this. Mom: "You're sister is probably going to come this weekend too." Me: "No she's not." Mom: "Yes she is." Me: "NO....she's not."The whole situation really infuriated me. My kid never gets to spend time with my parents because we live so far away and on top of that, my nephew has basically been raised by my mom. He's at her house all the time, day and night. Or, my mom is constantly running errands for my sister, picking my nephew up from her house, (a 35-minute drive) dropping him off, getting him ready for school, putting him to bed, etc.I get it, both his parents do shift work but the boy is 6, I feel like they could have figured out a better system by now other than having my 65 year old mother take care of him nearly 5 days a week. I just wanted my parents to have a nice quiet weekend away from all that. Not to mention, last time we all stayed together my mom spent the weekend chasing my nephew around while my sister relaxed. Not to mention you don't just invite yourself over to other people's houses!I ended up texting my sister and telling her how selfish she was being and how her and her baby daddy are basically running my mom ragged. Now my mom and sister are saying I'm acting ridiculous and over reacting. Who's the asshole here? via /r/AmItheAsshole https://ift.tt/31zEc4P
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