Hey all. Sorry, this is a long one.It's been a blessedly long time since I've needed to post here. After receiving the C&D, Memaw backed off almost completely. Like one or two voicemails within the year, and she had flowers delivered to my house on my birthday. We finally moved across the entire goddamn country in August. We've been wanting to do this for a long time, and it feels so good to be a thousand miles away from it all. However, it seems like a nuclear meltdown is now happening on both sides of the family as a result. When it became time to move, I started limiting my social media presence a lot. We only told a handful of trusted friends we were moving. I wanted to just disappear, yet I still got an intrusive message from my flying monkey uncle offering us moving boxes. One thing I was super worried about was that Memaw had maintained a Highlights magazine subscription for DD#1 even after the C&D. I was so paranoid that somehow she would get our new address from the magazines being forwarded by USPS. The first magazine that got sent to our new address had a yellow forwarding sticker from the post office on it. The one we got last week had our new address typed correctly on it, and DD's name had been corrected, where before it had been spelled wrong.She has our new address and updated the fucking magazine subscription to reflect it.A few days later, when I'm still trying to process this shock and fear, she fucking calls my husband and leaves a voicemail."Hello [DH], this is Memaw. I just wanted to let you know I'm so happy to see you've started your new life. We always love you."Please tell me this is exactly as crazy as I think it is. I feel like I'm being stalked, and some of the safety I felt being here is gone.As if this wasn't bad enough, my MIL has LOST her goddamn mind. She's been a consistent problem since the very beginning of my relationship with my husband. She legitimately hates me, plays favorites with my kids; the list goes on. I was hoping I wouldn't have to post about her again on here but it's gotten out of control.I started back on social media again after we moved, and have mostly been posting on my Facebook about how happy we are to be here and how pretty the weather is. I did make one post about how tough of an adjustment it's been moving to a small town and dealing with the comments we now get about how our kids dress. (Mainly my son who likes to wear skirts.)I proceeded to recieve this UNHINGED email from her with my husband CCd:" [BBRittz], it is not unusual that people make comments to me about your Facebook posts. This week though, those comments have been at a new high. Comments about you have been at a new low. People are concerned about your parenting capabilities & the safety of your children. For several reasons it would be prudent for you to monitor what you put out there. Your posts also reflect poorly on [DH] who is a Prince of a Man to tolerate what he does. Please, please, please think about your family before you post. If you want to journal, I would be happy to send you a book to scribe your thoughts, feelings & experiences. For you & you alone to read. [DH], I include you in this message So that you know that I have emailed [BBRittz]. People who know & love you are concerned about you & your family. None of us can do anything but I thought both of you should know what is happening in our world. Mom❤️"Y'all, I blocked this bitch 6 years ago. The list of people who could be showing her stuff from my FB is very small and I proceeded to block them all.My husband replied asking her what the hell kind of email was that, that she needed to stop villainizing me, and told her that she wasn't welcome to be around us unless she had a good apology ready to go.A few days later, he received this text:"Hi [DH]. Step by step, inch by inch I'm getting closer to my run for the U.S. / CDN Border. As soon as I get the call that my shipment has arrived in Toronto I'll be heading there. I need to UPS a large to you with the kiddos Christmas present in it. Please send me your address so I can get this done. Haven't heard from [DD#2, her favorite] since 8/19. Very strange after months of FaceTiming, visits, vacations... I detest the fact that [BBRittz, except she used my dead name I changed 5 years ago] has destroyed her family relationships & is now destroying ours. Closing doors for you & the kiddos to have a village to love, support & nurture you now & in the future. The destruction, drama, chaos, disrespect & manipulation that she has added to your life is the only thing I can apologize for. I am sorry about that. It is obvious how difficult living with her & her psychiatric issues is. She needs help - medications & therapy. It helped her before you knew her & it could help her again. I realize she is not willing. If she truly loved you & the children she would seek help to live productively with this illness. Please take care of yourself. I know the man you are & that you will take care of your family. Lots of love, XO"This woman has never once talked to me about my psychiatric history. She is super buddy-buddy with Memaw and that whole side of my family and has just gobbled up whatever they've said to her about me for years. I'm in therapy, and idk what she thinks my illness is but I have CPSTD from being abused by my family, who she's getting the info from.And the Facetime thing? My kid's tablet broke. But you can bet your ass I've taken her off their messenger apps now.A lot of the MIL stuff will make more sense with background context, but I've already already gone on too long here. I guess I'll fill in the gaps over the next few days with our history.I feel so exhausted, angry, defeated. Moving was supposed to get us away from all of this, and now it feels like they're down my throat more than ever and TEAMING UP about it.Someone please tell me this is all as insane as I feel like it is. Any advice would be appreciated.Thanks for reading this far. Y'all have helped me more than you know. via /r/JUSTNOMIL https://ift.tt/3l1zNPk
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