Possible Egg Donation and Bingos from my Therapist

My very good friend is reproductively challenged but desperately wants to be a mom, her partner really wants biological children since they want a large family, they're hoping for both a biological child and adopted. I love her very much and want her to have her dream.She recently asked me if I would be willing to donate my eggs. She knows I want to pursue sterilization. She proposed, assuming doctors sign off, I take the hormones for the egg harvest and in that procedure I get the tubal ligation or which ever method my doctor and I decide on. She'd help with the medical costs for the surgery. Win win.My husband and I discussed it, there's still some details to iron out, but we're theoretically on board. She has a few more possibilities to pursue with her fertility doctor (so she may not even want the harvest in the end, but she feels better with a back up discussed.)Today I spoke to my therapist and told her about the possible donation and as the title warned, she bingoed me. She KEPT harping on it being MY kid.Therapist: "People who say they don't want kids always say that until its their own kid."Me: "It wouldn't be my kid"Therapist: "But it would be your biological child."Me: "I don't put much stock in blood. I love my ex-step brother just as much as I do my half brothers and I love my ex-step mother just as much as my mother." (My dad and his second wife were together from when I was 4 until I was 25. She's equally my parent and my brother who is less than a year older than me is still my brother).Therapist: "Yeah, but still it would be your kid."Me: "No. It wouldn't. It's not coming out of my womb or living in my house. I'm not responsible for it financially or up with it in the middle of the night. IT'S. NOT. MY. KID."We spent so much time debating just this concept that I didnt even have time to talk about what I actually wanted to talk about which is how to deal with my mother if she were to find out my egg was used to make a baby.(My friend and my mother barely know eachother. I don't intend to even tell my mom about sterilization though she does know I'm CF. My mom really wants grandkids. I feel she would be problematic of she were to find out.)I'm planning to talk to my therapist about how she treated me. And give her another chance. I really like her other than this and getting a new therapist is a hassle. via /r/childfree https://ift.tt/2S5nBkb