My wonderful grandma

Just wanted to say my mom doesn't care about these topics being discussed bc she talks very openly about how much my grandma disliked her so no privacy being breached (also mobile disclaimer). Also sorry if it's longwinded I wanted to explain it out.So for some background to start, my dad growing up, was abusive, he was the youngest and only boy in the family so he was lifted on a pedestal and was very much babied. He quickly became an alcoholic and quit his job when my mom told him she was pregnant with me. From a young age I knew my mom and grandma had a mutual dislike for each other and I knew the reasons why and don't get me wrong I love my grandma regardless but I know she wasn't perfect and very much enabled my father. Holidays would be spent with my mother being outcasted by SILs and MIL with snide remarks and other actions just because she was the only outsider woman and my family very much sticks together and believes none of them can do wrong. 10 years of putting up with my dad and my mom finally left him. She was still paying for his phone bills bc he didn't have a job or a way to contact his kids if she stopped paying it (eventually stopped) and at one point was asked by his side of the family to pay $5,000 for a lawyer because he got a DUI and it was his third strike despite them being divorced. Now here is where we get to the biggest JNMIL thing my grandma has ever done.My grandma was very sick two years ago, in the hospital for a myriad of issues, sometimes with things looking brighter and other times with things looking very grim. My dad moved in with his parents about 10 years ago when we kicked him out and has been living there ever since, but since he's basically useless at caring for anyone including himself, my recently single aunt moved in to help my grandpa take care of my grandma. We've lived two hours away almost all our lives from them so visits have mainly been on holidays but obviously with her being in the hospital for so long we visited slightly more frequently but still not very often due to gas money. My mother would come with us because even though they were divorced my mother still considered my grandma family due to how long they were in each others lives so she'd visit but be polite and distant. The very last time we went to visit was after we had found out she had cancer and wasn't likely going to live another year. We had a feeling we wouldn't be able to see them much (we managed to get another trip in but we couldn't really talk to her because she was asleep). We spend time talking to her and my grandpa obviously devastated with the news and just hoping to have some final memories with her. As we go to say goodbye to her she says little meaningful things to me and my brother, and then she asks my mother to come closer to her and in front of me and my brother said, "Please take care of him for me, I worry about [my father]." We get in the car and are just dumbfounded by this. I still miss and love my grandma regardless but she is a flawed human and I was astounded at the audacity of her even on her deathbed. There are more stories of her wonderful treatment of my mother but this one was just the icing on the cake. via /r/JUSTNOMIL https://ift.tt/3jcrRKW