I have always wanted to be childfree. Had surgery and everything to help ensure it. I've been divorced. Then of course I fall in love with a man who has two children. I think my biggest reservation is I came from a blended family where things were ugly so I know how s***** a situation you can end up in as the step parent.Him have children is 0% an issue with me. It's just so not what I'm use to or thought my life was going. For me what weirds me out is how good relationship he has with BM.She will occasionally call just to chat and talk. Not even necessarily related to the children but just to chat. it's probably just my insecurities but I'm starting to think it might be worse that he has a good relationship with BM than if there was tension, because I do constantly have a concern at the back of my mind that if she were to want to get the family back together that he would leave me for her. again, hopefully it's just my insecurities talking.But again, this could just be because I only saw toxic family relationships growing up so it just seems so obscure to me. I have expressed my concern to him and he has reassured me before that if he and BM were going to be together they would be because they had several years to try and fix things, and that they work great as friends but not in a relationship. If anyone has been in a similar situation or has advice to offer, it would be much appreciated.Oh, and he lives in the same apartment complex as BM, literally 6 doors down. Which I guess is great for the kids, but again, seems a little weird to me.Not sure if this info is relevant He has custody every their weekend but will switch to 50/50 when BM finishes school. Kids are 3&5 We are not planning on having children of our own via /r/stepparents https://ift.tt/3lcd5UO
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