My therapist helped me realize today that I don't have to emotionally support my mom because she should be the parent

I posted a few days ago about my mom's (the Queen WASP) issues with her mother, being disinherited, and how she always makes herself the victim even when you try to support her.I haven't talked to her still, but I realized that when I do, all I'm going to apologize for is for offering to support her emotionally. At the end of the day, it's inappropriate for me as her child - even though I'm now an adult - to support her emotionally when she hasn't done so for me.I'm tired of being the strong one, always putting myself and my emotional needs aside, of being the bigger person, for her. I don't care if it makes her feel like a bad mom (which, ultimately it won't because she's so full of herself) because she honestly needs to feel bad of all the shit she's put me through.I'm not going to betray myself just so she doesn't feel "rejected" which is ultimately a projection of her own emotional-abandonment issues with her own mom. She can go to therapy for that shit. She rarely cares to listen about anything I'm going through, and when she does, she makes it about her. Even when I was a kid, I knew more about her internal world than she ever did about mine.Anyone else realized that they were more the parent in their family relationships than their own parents were? via /r/JUSTNOMIL https://ift.tt/345ZPvf