Is Kody a worse husband or a worse father?

The more I see of Sister Wives and discussions here, I'm having a hard time deciding whether Kody is a worse husband or a worse father. Clearly, he's terrible in both roles and has made them all suffer.Some examples that stand out to me as Kody being a nightmare of a husband is when he was so brutal to Christine during the rock-tower exercise on their anniversary trip and said, "When you love the family, THEN I will love you." So bad. Also, when Kody told Meri he would wait for her to decide about IVF and then right when Meri was about to say, "Yes, I want to do it," Kody jumped in and said, "Let's wait on 'no' and then if you're crying all the time and waking up in the middle of the night really wanting this, we can talk about it again." He shut the door in her face so hard.Some examples where Kody was a horrible father include when he didn't even make sure Truely was drinking water when he was the parent in charge and she went into kidney failure. Also, when he clearly didn't understand or care how much he'd traumatized Paedon and other kids with all the dramatics and sudden urgency of the move from Utah. All that drama was for show, but the kids didn't know that, and it really hurt a lot of the kids. Also, when he and Robyn decided to move everybody to Flagstaff, he didn't even care that Gabe was giving up college scholarships and a whole wrestling team he'd become close friends with. He made fun of Gabe for not having a good attitude about the move, somehow forgot that Gabe was the only kid who hadn't seen Coyote Pass and then didn't even realize that Gabe was working hard to graduate high school a year early in Flagstaff.I feel sorry for everybody in his family except for Robyn. She knew what she was getting into. Sometimes I think his three other wives have it worse than the kids because at least the kids can leave and start building their own happy, stable lives when they turn 18. But none of the kids asked to be born into this chaotic mess with a dad who barely pays attention to most of them. So I'm confused.What do you all think? Is Kody worse as a husband or worse as a father? via /r/TLCsisterwives https://ift.tt/3d6hR3F