If I’m old enough to decide to have a kid, I’m old enough to decide not to have one.

My 17 year old cousin is currently (intentionally) pregnant, she is still living with her elderly adoptive parents and using weed and alcohol (at least) She and her boyfriend also have been to court for stealing, I’ve witnessed them shoplift multiple times, and all the while are talking about “trying” for a baby. Well... it happened. Like what the actual fuck is going on?!?! I am so sad for that poor poor kid. I don’t know what happens to babies who’s “mother” uses substances while they’re fucking pregnant, but it obviously can’t be good. I don’t understand why they wouldn’t just wait until they’re functional adults with jobs and their own place to live! Abortion is legal, accessible and cheap or free where I live. Not that I should be making someone’s reproductive choices for them, but I can’t fathom how someone could want a child and yet not give up drugs for nine fucking months. When I mentioned not wanting kids to my mom she gave me this whole speech about how I’m not in the position to decide that so early on and shouldn’t sell myself short. Like...I smoke weed and cigarettes and drink? I’m not 100% sure I could give all that up if I got pregnant, I can recognize my limits and not ruin a tiny humans life for my vices?How is someone allowed to have a baby while not having a job or place of their own, smoking and drinking, adding to their criminal record, but god forbid I say I don’t want kids. via /r/truechildfree https://ift.tt/34cuQ0y