Does anybody have any advice for passive-aggressive backhanded comments and controlling step parents?

TL;DR: Very repetitive comments in an attempt to manipulate and control our lives to their liking and satisfaction rather than allowing us to explore and be free in our own independence.Does anybody have any advice as a 22 year old dealing with passive-aggressive controlling parents and co step parents?My parents generally mean well (I think?). They always try to help “guide me” in the right direction. Being 22 my dad sees himself a lot in me. And I guess that scares him. We “go on walks” for frequent (exactly the same) conversations about how “he was the same struggling to ask out girls” and “exposure” or “doing fun things” is the main thing. Completely avoiding the concept that my perception of “fun” is much different from them.The same way they tried to control my brother in for no apparent reason; “getting a job” while he’s literally studying for life changing results into the career that will get him a job better than theirs.. maybe that insults them??My step mum makes a lot of backhanded insults towards me and my brother every time we don’t follow her dinner table courtesy to a t or if we don’t immediately see we should be offering to help her; or if we should be living our lives a certain way such as what I have described. They seem to miss the pair of them that we are happy in our own independent goals and livelihoods but because we are not as successful as other kids in certain areas they feel the need to jump to conclusions or to “help” and advise me more specifically; which makes me feel degraded as a person.I am unsure how to continue living with this week after week until I do finally get a new job and live my own life. Although I would not have the strength to banish family members especially some of which who are so closely tied to more who I hold dear. And for the complicated relationship with my mother where she wants him to do as much work for us as she does. Despite being now 19 and 22.I think she does miss that if she holds custody then at a certain age if we are living there that’s not my dads problem and he does contribute a lot more than most fathers. I love them all and we have great times but it can be overshadowed by these constant little stings that occur week in and week out and I am uncertain how to handle it because it is extremely repetitive? Sorry for the long haul. It helps get it off my chest. :) via /r/relationships https://ift.tt/3o1yXob