Am I lacking empathy for not caring if my uncle dies?

I know this sounds bad, but please hear me out. My (24f) uncle (64m) and I had a pretty normal relationship growing up. I’d stay at his place with my cousins on weekends my parents went out of town, we’d watch cartoons and have fun, and he was the fun uncle.As I grew up, I noticed that my mom (53 f) would give him handouts and help him pay for utilities quite often. No problem, he’s disabled, and hard times happen. But after a while, he started expecting it and acting entitled. It became a trend that he’d only call my mom or hang out when he wanted something from her, and I wasn’t ok with that because that’s her money, not his. He’d also do or say questionable things like siding with his daughter after her kids were taken away because she was abusing them or saying my mom was out to get him when she did nothing but help him.About 2 years ago, I talked to my mom and told her he was using her and she should cut him off. She agreed, but she told me that she felt really guilty. When I asked why, she told me he had abused her as a kid, and she felt like it was her fault and he didn’t understand what he was doing. He was in his teens, and she was under the age of ten, so I pointed out he should have known better by that age, and she had nothing to feel guilty about. She agreed and cut him off, though she still maintains contact with his son, who is a saint.She texted me yesterday letting me know he is now in the ICU dealing with stage 4 COPD, and he might not make it. I told her that I didn’t want to know anything because if I found out what hospital, I might speed up the process and then attend his funeral to dance on his grave. While she agreed, she told me that I shouldn’t stoop to that level and should show respect for the sick and the dead. I don’t feel bad at all. My family doesn’t know what he did apart from my parents and I, and I seem to be the only one to hate him for it and refuse to forgive him just cause he’s dying. Does that mean there is something wrong with me? via /r/SeriousConversation https://ift.tt/2Hqy8Va