So on Monday my fiancé’s(31M sorry forgot to mention in titled) family had a “thanksgiving FaceTime” it was his sister and her son, his brother and his fiancé and their parents.We don’t celebrate thanksgiving (I’m indigenous but we have a dinner that day to celebrate my ancestors and indigenous people)Well we get on FaceTime and everyone is saying hi to him and nobody says anything to me so I wave and say a hello but I do admit my voice was low and nobody said hello. So I know at that point how things are going to go and just stay in the backgroundThey are talking and asking him how he is and just catching up and his brother asks if we are doing a thanksgiving dinner and he said “yes” and I cut in to say “no we aren’t” and he goes in to say “well we sort of are”. I know he says this because he doesn’t want to get into it detail as to why we don’t celebrate because he’s worried his family will have to hide them celebrating it? He also says “it’s political”.. which is bullshit in my opinion. I know his family knows I don’t celebrate, I’m pretty open about it.It gets awkward and the family carries on the convo so I go in the room at this point. The conversation ends awhile later and he comes in the room and asks if I’m okay.. at this point I don’t want to fight so I say I’m fine.I have had a really hard childhood, my mom was addicted to drugs and severely abusive/neglectful. My dad was not in my life until I was 16 due to drugs. I don’t speak with my family as I wanted to break the cycle of drugs and abuse and he knows how bad/important it is to me to have some type of family.Tbh it’s mostly his sister, she has never liked me. It didn’t help that anytime my fiancé and I fought about anything he would tell his sister but he even admitted to never telling her the truth of the stuff he said/did which is very frustrating as He made everything seem one sided. When his sister gave birth he asked my fiancé to spend some time/sleep over to help take care of the baby but she is married? I found that odd.Well, everything came up today and I told him how I’m upset he doesn’t include me in things and I didn’t appreciate him blowing me off when I said to his family we aren’t having thanksgiving dinner and thats when he said “it’s political” to talk about.I love his nephew as my own, been there since before he was born. He’s a great kid. So I do get excited to FaceTime him and it hurt when his sister was saying “say hi to uncle fiancé” and just ignored me. So I told my fiancé I also feel like your sister hates me and it’s very awkward and he told me I’m being difficult and I could have joined the conversation and how “it’s my nephew”.. he always likes to remind me it’s not my family and it’s his.I feel kind of dumb now. Maybe I am over exaggerating ? Maybe it’s not that big of a deal but I feel very lonely when we are around his family.AITA? via /r/AmItheAsshole https://ift.tt/3nTfZ3b
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