Parenting with parents

I recently left an unhealthy relationship and moved back in with my parents temporarily. First, I want to say that they are more than accommodating and I am extremely appreciative of them helping me like this. That being said, I am losing my mind! I have systems and routines that work for me and the kids. My mom typically babysits while I work, so she has her own systems and routines that work for her and the kids. These do not mix! If my son gets into trouble, I sit him down and explain why he can't do the thing... here, he will not listen, he just screams for grandma. I mean, SCREAMS to the point I'm worried he's going to make himself vomit. My mom will come grab me to tell me one needs a diaper change if I happen to be out having a cigarette, so I'll come in and find her already changing the diaper. She constantly asks if they've eaten, when they were last bathed, etc. Yes mother, I have kept them fed and bathed for 2 years so far, I'm not going to suddenly forget my children require food. She'll give them whatever she feels like feeding them, and only ask me after it's open and in their hand. And the thing that's got me right now, she's insisting he has a fever. I have taken his temperature 6 times in the past 3 hours with 2 different thermometers, but "he feels hotter than normal" and she's so insistent and worked up that he's getting worked up and saying owie now. If I take him out of the room for a few minutes and then ask if anything is owie, he says no. I love her and I appreciate her and I respect that different things work for her, by my goodness, I cannot mother like this! And she does try to listen and adjust when I talk to her, but A) some of this is out of her control, B) some of it she just doesn't think through, and C) I do really appreciate her so it's a "pick your battles" kind of thing. Just needed to vent for a minute. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2S4kBVo