Advice for how to tell my dad I was sexually assaulted nearly 10 years ago?

So, as the post says, I was assaulted about ten years ago, pretty severely by multiple men. I was 18 at the time, and ended up not reporting it. I’ve since done therapy and worked through it, and honestly feel that I’m as “over it” as a person can be. But... I’ve never told him.We’ve had a somewhat rocky relationship, but that’s mainly in the past. My sibling had a TON of issues, so my parents attention had to be pretty much all on them for years. After being raped i didn’t want draw attention to myself, and given some issues from childhood, I’m really not the type to ever want to ask for help from anyone or admit to anything being wrong. I’ve always been the type to take care of things myself, regardless of how difficult.I ended up dropping out of school, getting a job, and being in a kind of shit place for awhile. Since then my siblings in a better place, my dads been able to relax a lot and we’ve really repaired our relationship a lot. I’ve also travelled a ton, found a job I love, moved continents a couple of times, and am honestly in a great place now.I’m currently living with my dad (my VISA was up so I had to move back to my home country temporarily) and am getting along great with him and my sibling + his girlfriend and her kids who are all also at home. I just really feel like I should tell him this, but whenever I gather up the courage I just can’t. I feel like I freeze up and just don’t want to ruin things. He’ll be devastated, yet also very likely angry at me for a) not telling him right when it happened, and b) for not reporting things. I don’t want to damage our relationship, yet I hate feeling like I’m keeping something from him that he would want to know.Just... if you’ve had to te a parent about being raped, or as a parent, have had a child tell you, what advice do you have? I feel like it’s something I need to tell him, but just can’t get the words out to even ask to talk to him about it.Also, please don’t come at me about not reporting. I’m not getting into the circumstances here, but it wouldn’t have done anything. At all. via /r/Advice https://ift.tt/2EzyOqh