So, here's my story for this amazing subreddit.I (30's F) meet this guy (30's M) online. We meet in person and I find out he's unemployed (supposedly due to Covid) and doesn't have a car, because "somebody on drugs hit him and totaled his car, and insurance wouldn't even give him enough to pay it off so he still owes money on it and can't afford another one"Okay, so I'm not one to rush into anything, but I keep his situation in mind as well as how I could maybe help, etc. We talk for a month or two, and that's when I start noticing patterns.He said he's "burning through savings fast" and also keeps mentioning how literally everyone from friends to family to exes especially kept "screwing him over" like he's always the victim. Ooohhh that should've been a red flag, right? But since I've been down on my luck a time or two, I maintain a degree of sympathy.He finally got a job, but then quit it a week or two later due to being "severely disrespected" there... whatever that means. He said the (local) company was being "shady" and he didn't like how they ran their business. Fair enough, I understand... But then...He spends days and weeks on the indeed website looking for jobs. I'm over at his place with him some of these times (his roommate is his best friend and roommate's parents own their house so he's not getting kicked out)I see him looking at jobs, complaining about many, ruling them out for all kinds of funny reasons - not just because they aren't close enough to their remotely located house to walk to.He's like "this one's manual labor, so that's out" and on one, when he did full out the info for it - when it asked what his motivation was for it, the dumbass gets all smart-elec(?) and puts "money". I'm like... Really?He's been searching for at least a bicycle to get around on, and plenty of mountain bikes are available locally for very cheap and I even offered him one (for FREE) but no, he wants a good street bicycle, because the tires on a mountain bike make you "work so much harder" on pavement. True, but... They make other tires(?) and/or you could sell or trade it for a street bike, right?So, he quit a job it took him a long time to find because he didn't like "the way he was treated". He turns down free stuff because "it isn't what he wanted", and here's a funny part I feel is worth mentioning...I'm almost 6 ft tall, blonde, female, have been told I'm very attractive, own my own business, a career that most people find fascinating, own my own place outright, car(s), etc, play about 7 musical instruments passably well, speak multiple languages, study historic martial arts, play mmo's and rpg's, build my own computers and make armor - all as work and hobbies. He says he liked me, but I kid you not - after some d very light) physical things happened, and I asked out of respect to him if we were then considering ourselves "together" (I need to know what to tell people when they ask, which they already did, but I wanted his permission and agreement before I said anything he might not like) -- He flips out and BLOCKS ME, saying I'm (apparently) rushing him, "like all females" (WTF) - then comes crawling back for forgiveness - LITERALLY EVERY FEW DAYS!!This is like the 3rd time and I'm so done and over his bullshit. He can fucking starve since no local places carry his favorite damn foreign coffee and his fucking $100/mo subscription crate took his last bit of savings. Really, FTGTLDR: Unemployed dumbass refuses free, useful, pawnable shit and available jobs he thinks he's too good for, quits a job once he got it, and treats eligible, attractive female who only cares about him, like shit. via /r/ChoosingBeggars https://ift.tt/2HfkEvb
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