Kids who aren't properly socialized early...are there ways to turn it around?

Around 6:00 in this video, JP talks about young children who aren't properly socialized, and who end up being isolated and mostly rejected by peers, and then tend to remain "outside the peer group for the rest of their lives." https://youtu.be/di2FM8WZI5E?t=360After a lot of deep thought, I'm pretty sure this is me and now I'm 24. Even though I have many contacts, have a good family, a couple friends, etc. I've always felt isolated and outside the main groups of people my age. I've always been a loner, always had trouble connecting with people. Some if it was my own fault for being afraid to take chances and do things with kids my age; some of it is my parents' fault for not forcing me to do things with kids my age more.I went all through college like this, sadly Made a few "friends" through involvements but again failed socially, even though I try do cool things like workout and play sports. I did those things, but failed to create healthy social bonds with other people and groups. I have no idea what it's like to share living space or be close physically with others. I've always been completely alone at the end of the day. Now after college I have nothing and realize how miserable I am. I have no social life, I have no environment to play in. If you looked at my social media pages, I'd probably appear to be pretty normal (connected to many people I met in high school and college)…but I'm not. I'm a social failure because I have no social group or vibrant connections, but I know I can't live like this anymore because I've fell deep into depression.Many men turn out to be loners and socially isolated from the leading peer groups at the given age, but I know now that I can't "settle" for that. I don't know exactly what I want out of life yet, but I know I need to turn things around and fast. It just upsets me so much that I already messed up the chances I had to go from a loner to having a strong social life. I failed to do that in high school and college.For a more general purpose and "career" in life, I may join the military...preferably as an officer but possibly enlisting too. At this point, really anything that forces me into a "structure" and shared living space is far better than the boring, isolated life I have right now.But if anyone has any other general thoughts on the topic...men who were not properly socialized who want to turn that around and not stay that way forever...please share here. Thanks. via /r/JordanPeterson https://ift.tt/3kgyXOR