I [33/F] don’t really feel like he’s making me a part of his [36/M] life- how do I talk about this to him?

We’ve been together for a year give or take.Our relationship is generally good. We have a lot of chemistry, laughs and good times but I do often have this nagging gut feeling.Prior to me he didn’t have really any relationship experience so literally everything with me was a first. There was a lot of learning on his part and I lot of patience and frustration on mine. Many common sense relationship things I felt he really lacked.!75 over time we have worked past things and have improved our communication. He isn’t a perfect man but he is a trying man and I am always appreciative of that. He always tells me he loves me, that I am the one for him etc etc. I guess I often wonder how can he speak so fondly of me without really anything to compare it too? How can he know I’m the one? How does he know love when he hasn’t experienced anything? Am I just the first girl who has actually given him the time of day (all thoughts that sometime run through my mind)I would like to eventually get married and have a kid and I know he wants these things but it sometimes feels like he’s just selling me a pipe dream. I often question if I am wasting my time with him and I hate that I feel that way. He hardly talks about the future. And when he has I have caught him saying things in reference to his future that have nothing to do with me. He quickly catches himself but I wonder if that really is the truth and he only talks about the future because again he thinks that what I want to hear. But like I said everything is new for him so maybe he is trying his best.We only see each other once a week (some of those times includes staying over) previously we were an hour + drive away now we are 35 minutes. He also seems okay with only seeing each other once a week... yet he’ll say like crazy how he misses me and etc now that we are closer it really is still only once a week.I have met his parents and his brother a few times. With thanksgiving coming up he hasn’t invited me over which I find a little hurtful and confusing. Also for his birthday. He spent it with me and then everyone was suppose to go out together (his family + me) and he ended up just going to the cottage with his parents.. so I didn’t even spend his actual birthday with him.One last thing, as far as social media goes... he using Instagram and Facebook. He posts things of us on Instagram but I am not friends with him on Facebook. I found it weird that he never asked me. He has a lot of other friends and family on there and to be honest that doesn’t sit well with me.He says I’m a big part of his life but it really does not feel that way. It’s just all very uncomfortable for me... it makes me feel uneasy and doubtful of the relationship. I don’t know if it’s just his lack of experience or if maybe this really isn’t the relationship for meHow do I say all of this to him? It’s making me want to step away via /r/datingoverthirty https://ift.tt/3nuowt3