I (25F) don't want to take my boyfriend's (24M) last name when we get married. I also don't want to hyphenate our future children's last names. What are my options?

Hi everyone, apologies if this is formatted weird. I've never made a reddit post before and have mostly just lurked on this subreddit for hilarious shit so I don't really know what to include. Throwaway just in case.So basically, my boyfriend (24M) and I (25F) have been together for a few years now. We live together and are quite serious, the topics of marriage and future children have come up multiple times and it is not at all unusual for us to sit around BSing about what our life will be like one day. About a year ago when we were long distance we had one of our biggest fights start because I mentioned I wanted to keep my last name if/when we eventually got married. He comes from a conservative family, and although he is not conservative himself at all I can tell he has some lingering values from his upbringing that he thinks should be traditional (like the woman taking the man's last name when they are married for example). We argued about this for a long time.I am not conservative at all, and while I do understand that the entire institution of marriage is rooted 100% in misogynistic societal expectations, I do still want to get married and do all the fun stuff that comes with it. Basically I'm looking forward to having a big party with all our family and friends and being able to share checks. Whatever. The one thing I just have a lot of trouble with stomaching is taking my husband's last name. I think it's ridiculous, unnecessary, and robs me of my personhood in a very unique way by basically forcing me to take on a completely different identity just because I've chosen to spend my life with one specific person. Anyway, my boyfriend has come around to agreeing that this practice is quite sexist and he doesn't mind if I keep my last name which is great.Now to the problem I need help with. Unfortunately both of us kind of think that the practice of hyphenating your kids' last names is a lot of hassle. I've read articles written by people with hyphenated last names who hate it, call it impractical, and wish their parents had never done it just to score woke points in the late 90's when it was really popular. I 100% agree with this and really don't want to have to hyphenate our kids' last names. However, I don't really think it's fair for them to have my husband's last name either. A friend of mine's mom didn't change her last name when she was married, but when her kids were born with friend's dad they all got his last name. Again, I find this to be a sexist practice and don't understand why all our kids should have the same last name as my husband when I'm the one who has to carry them around inside me for 9 months. And even with an equal share of parental duties, I still don't think that's fair. So this is a very long-winded way of asking Reddit what the hell to do in this situation that we're going to be caught in a few years down the line. I hate hyphenated last names but can't figure out for the life of me what else to do to make the naming of my future children as egalitarian yet unridiculous as possible. Any advice is greatly appreciated.​TL;DR - I want to keep my last name when I marry my boyfriend. I don't want to hyphenate the names of our future children because it's a hassle or defer to his last name because I think it's sexist. What should we do? via /r/relationships https://ift.tt/3k2IKb7