Well I (21m) have 3 nephews (13m, 9m, 7m) andoldest turned 13 last week. Usually I brought the kids kind of expensive gifts and for some time now I put 50€ extra in the presents. This wasn't a problem for me, I lived with my parents and didn't have to pay for anything just luxus shit I wanted to have and I had a kind of well paying job so I liked making these present cause it made the kids happy.Well now I live on my own and money is a lot more tight. When my middle nephew turned 9 in july I toned it down with the present but I was still able to put the 50€ inside. Since then I lost my job and honestly I'm very fucking broke, 50€ is a lot of money for me at the moment and while I probably would have been able to put the money into the present I would have struggled through the rest of the month. So I didn't put any money inside the present and brought him something rather cheap (that he had wished for). My nephew seemed happy with the present and didn't ask about the money or anything he just thanked me and I thought that was it.But my parents texted me afterwards and told me that I was being really unfair and playing favorites and that the 50€ are a tradition at this point so I should have given him that money. And I can kind of see where they're coming from; I have been doing this for 3 years now (yeah I know the younger ones couldn't really appreciate the money at that age but I wanted to be fair) and I gave his brother the 50€ at his birthday this year so it could kind of seems like I'm favoring him. But like I said I'm fucking broke and yeah I could have given him the 50€ without starving or shit but it would have been really uncomfortable this month. My parents know that but think I should have just sucked it up to make things fair between my nephews. (For what's worth I probably won't give my youngest nephew 50€ at his birthday in december too).Idk I wonder if my parents might be right and I should have given him that money to make things fair between the kids. So AITA? via /r/AmItheAsshole https://ift.tt/3m4iKwK
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