Why do women attack husbands wanting a better sex?

I'm not happy with my current sex life. When I bring it up with my wife she gets defensive, then it turns into an argument, so I stop bringing it up. When you were dating, engaged, or the first two years of marriage. How much sex were you having? I bet there were no complaints. A couple of kids later, both parents full time jobs, and now sex is a chore. The man has to buy flowers, do extra cleaning, tickle her legs, and be extra nice, but you can't bring up sex because she has to bring it up if she wants to.It never fails that a few women attack me as a bad guy, treating her like a toy. I married her because I want her to treat me like a fun toy she can't wait to come home and play with. Why is sex a chore now. I'm not going to divorce her, I love my family and it would kill me to break my kids heart.One time she said it looks like I've been drinking more. I have because I want a relaxing enjoyable moment from this stressful situation. I told her if she made love to me at least once every 4 days that I would never drink again. She said she can't do that. I'm a good father and husband, but why doesn't my needs matter. via /r/DeadBedrooms https://ift.tt/2TeLNBn