NEED RESPONSES ASAP (on a time limit)! I need all the advise I can get!Okay I live with my younger sister, my mother and father. Financial situation got tough and so we converted the living room area into a private room to rent. A family friend who has a gf and a son desperately needed a place to rent and my parents agreed to let them move in. Unfortunately, my parents did not create a contract and did not set house rules.These people were given access to the whole kitchen (they were able to use everything we have dishes, cooking utensils, etc.), they were given a fridge (theirs was broken), and were given the freedom to do pretty much what they desired to do. A renters DREAM! They apparently don't realize that you don't get this type of treatment everywhere you rent and they should be grateful to have such kind landlords that let them do as they please. They create and leave huge messes in the kitchen, they never offer to clean anything around the house (it's a communal living situation), when my mother spends all day tidying up they don't try to maintain it and when asked to clean up after themselves or their dog (which they got without asking for permission) they deflect and get offended.My mother has Parkinson's disease but she is the most badass woman you'll ever meet! Life has been unfair to her but she never lets her situation defeat her. She is a kind woman who instead of creating problems or confronting the tenants she rather clean up after them. Since they moved in here I have had an issue with how they behave and I've had to hold my tongue many times in order not to create distress within the family. I am not one to shy away from speaking what is on my mind but my parents have asked me not to get involved. Well like Samuel L. Jackson said in Snakes on a Plane "Enough is enough! I have had it with these motherf*#@%* snakes on this motherf*#@%* plane!" (Switch plane for house). Last night, the gf cooked and created a huge mess in the kitchen and left it there! Even though my mom had been explaining to her how much in pain she was due to dislocating her shoulder (they were having this conversation while the gf cooked!).My parents left on a day trip and I decided to write them a letter because I fear that if I say it in person I cannot maintain a professional demeanor. I am trying my best not to be argumentative or disrespectful, I just want to be understood. I need to give them the letter before my parents return today! I will type my letter out below please tell me if I'm being an A hole for writing this to them. Thank You! (If you need more background let me know) And yes the mess is still there! Also also, my parents have "confronted" them about cleaning but they just take it offensively.The Letter:"I am writing to you because I believe it's a better way of communicating to you what I need to say. I no longer wish to argue with my parents and so I am now reaching out to you. I understand that you work a lot, have a kid to take care of and it can be tiresome to come home to cook and clean. We are all living under the same roof and we need to work together in order to maintain an organized, fluid home. Look I understand the house is a mess. After years of trying to keep the house clean, organized and functional I have given up. My mom is not going to change the way she is and she is never going to keep the house in order(the way I would want it). So, instead of trying to clean everything I now just clean after myself. My mom is SICK! She may not show it, she may not complain but she is SICK! She can't walk and right now one of her arms is hurting her to the point she's crying in pain. Not only is she the strongest woman I know, she's the strongest person I know. She's also so kind and generous I can only pray I'll be half the woman she is. She doesn't like confrontation and she loves to help others in many ways. I admire her so much and I love her so much and even though she may not like to point out certain things that are bothersome to her, she has me to do so. I am not afraid of confrontation and I am not afraid to speak my mind. If I have yet to speak to you, it is only because she has asked me not to do so. That is why I am writing to you. I'm not sure if you know what Parkinson's disease does to your body, emotions, and mind but it's not good. Even getting out of bed every morning is difficult and my mom literally wakes up singing! That just goes to show you how brave and strong she is. I can't even do that! Imagine your mother was in the same situation and she had people move into her house( young, healthy people like yourselves). And lets say your mother was so kind she even sometimes cooks for them, let's them borrow a fridge and dishes/pans/etc... and even welcomed them into her home with no rules (they were free to do pretty much what they wanted). Would you not be upset if these people used her pots & pans, used her stove, used all the amenities she has and after using them they left it dirty? I know you must be tired from working and the last thing you want to do is clean but guess who cleans after you? It's not me, it's not my sister and it's definitely not my dad. Its her, my mom. My poor mom who can't walk, who can't drive, who tries everyday of her life just to wake up and be happy. I can no longer stand by and let this happen. I hope you take this as advice for now and for future living situations. In my opinion, it's a total lack of respect. I'm not saying you do this all the time but you've done it enough for me to notice. Don't think I don't see all the good you both do for my parents because I do. I appreciate you spending time with them, distracting them from what's going on in the world, giving them food/meals when you can, and everything else that you do. For all those things I truly thank you. No one is perfect and all I'm asking is for you to be more aware of what you are doing and cleaning after yourselves within an appropriate amount of time. I really just don't want my mother's kindness to be taken advantage of. If you need help cleaning, I will help but for a price. Thank you for taking time to read this and I hope you understand what I am trying to say." via /r/badroommates https://ift.tt/3lpyaLO
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