throwaway time because I don't want this attached to my main.Me (36M) and my (37F) sister growing up were really close to our grandmother, my mom (58F) and my dad (60M) were very young when they had us so my grandmother practically raised us, we spend a lot of time with her and she always spoiled us a lot, she paid for all of our studies (it was really expensive went to med school and my sister went to nursing school).We've always remained close to our grandmother, our grandfather died before we're born and she never remarried so she was always lonely and we being around helped her a lot, she was always excited to see us.The thing about our grandma is that she is a VERY religious Catholic (she was always religious but when our granddad died she turned to the church to help grief), growing up she always took us to church and always encouraged us to follow her faith, I consider myself a Catholic but I'm not that religious although I still attended church with grandma and go to confession at least 2 times a year, my sister always tried to do the same but it was very clear that she didn't like it so when she was 17 she asked our grandma if was okay if she stopped attending church, our grandma was very sad with this but never pressured her so she let it go, my sister and she always remained very close.Things started to change when my sister started dating M(40M) M is a Muslim, my sister dated him for about three years in secret (of my grandma, my parents were not happy with this but she told them) but M proposed to her, my grandma meet him but my neither he nor my sister brought up his religion, two weeks before the wedding my grandma find out that M is a Muslim (to this day I really don't know who told her I think it was my parents but they always denied that) well it was a disaster, my grandmother demanded that my sister break off the engagement with the Jihadist (this is how she started to refer to him), well they got into a huge fight my grandma treated to disown her, my sister didn't break up with M, my grandma didn't attend her wedding and then she disowned her.This caused a huge rift in our family (it was honestly very similar to a divorce) my grandma refused to be in my sister presence and we started doing separately holidays (grandma got easter, my sister thanksgiving that type of thing), my grandma refused to hear or talk about my sister and she considered my sister death to her. We expected her to reestablish some contact when my sister gave birth but she never met my sister kids (14M,13M,11M), they never spoke to each other in these last 16 years.On the other hand, I remained very close to her, she absolutely loved my wife (i honestly think she liked my wife more than me) and she was always a present grandmother in my children's life (11F,9F,7M), my wife is also a catholic (and she is more ''active'' in that department than me) so our children where raised Catholics as well.Which brings us to the present, my grandmother died last month at 81 years old, despite her age we were not expecting that she was always very healthy.On to the issue: my grandfather was very wealthy and he left everything for my grandma. When she died she left her house to my parents (it is a big and very expensive house) and her beach house to me, the rest of her stuff to me as well (she had a lot of jewelry). The problem is the money she had around $13,6 million she left $1million to me and my wife, she left a trust fund for each of my kids of $4 million the fund itself is in my name but they will gain access to that fund when they turn 18, the only thing she left for my sister was her favorite bible and a donation of $500k in my sister's name to the local church she used to attend.Well, my sister is absolutely furious with this she is complaining that her kids didn't receive anything and that my kids receive a lot more than they should, she demands that I shared the money with her family and my parents think that my grandmother was being unfair to her, my nephews are also complaining a LOT and her husband is calling me every day since.I feel like anything that I do would cause a lot of problems, my wife thinks is our children money and I shouldn't do anything but she would be ok whatever I choose (she means it, my wife is pretty much the least selfish person on this earth, she is very submissive and non-confrontational), my parents think that I should share at least a bit of the money but I feel like in the future my kids will resent me for this.I really don't know what to do here Reddit, any advice is appreciated. via /r/relationship_advice https://ift.tt/35rQJZj
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