Just feeling exhausted of living with one of my parents

I feel like things will be fine for awhile, but then something stressful will happen or I'm not doing what they want me to do and they snap or say something really rude and sarcastic. In the past two weeks one of my parents told me that when I was younger I would manipulate their feelings and hoped that when I had kids that they wouldn't clean the house and then said that that would be payback. I was sitting and playing a game and enjoying myself and instead of politely asking me to help they say that crap. I'm just exhausted of living what feels like a double life with one of my parents. Where in one life everything is fine and we get along just fine, but then the other life I'm guilt tripped and ungrateful and am supposed to feel ashamed. From name calling to shouting so loud that it feels like a window could have broken, it's exhausting. There's certain things I can't even bring up. Such as politics, science, sometimes if I disagree they will then tell me to go ahead and argue with them about everything. They side comment when I'm talking on the phone, they tell me how I should talk to my grandparents. They ask me if I know what a basic word means. If they do apologise it's always followed by that they are terrible and I'm always right. The worst thing they have done yet is claim that I treat them and my other parent like children. And when I told them I loved them the asked if I really did. I just don't think they fully grasp what anxiety is like because they once claimed that my stress wasn't real stress and that war veterans stress is real stress. Yes it is stress and yes wars are extremely excruciating, however my stress is real too. Another time I was stressed out and they sent me a picture of a severely malnourished African American child with the caption "Today's reminder, that your life really isn't that bad." How is this supposed to make me feel better? Am I supposed to clap my hands that I'm not starving? If anything this picture makes me feel sad, because there's nothing I can do to help them. Also again it's not a competition of who's life is worse! via /r/abuse https://ift.tt/33PWmRA