Is it normal?

I am so exhausted and angry all the time and I'm starting to doubt myself. Please give me an outside perspective/voice of reason. New account because reasons. We are in a typical relationship where I'm at home with kids (2 of them under 4 years old, a 13 yr old and an 11 yr old part time in our house). He works and pays bills. I do everything else. Not gonna make a giant list. I do EVERYTHING. He doesn't do even 1 household chore. Doesn't even clean after himself on a consistent basis. Hardly spends any active time with kids - except sitting on a couch on phone/tv with kids in vicinity, but I'm still the one to get juice/clean up/make snacks/change diapers person, even if I'm cooking/working. Unless I yell out he will ignore their whining and crying. Can you hear my contempt lol My littlest one is a terrible sleeper and still wakes up to nurse 3-4 times per night. I haven't slept in 2 years. Many conversations, asking, nagging, crying, making lists, etc later I still don't get help from him. Last night when the littlest one was crying and refusing to sleep, I had a breaking point - cried and told him I was so worn out and feel I'm reaching breaking point. His bright idea - telling me how I AM the reason kids are needy and whiny and maybe I should change my parenting style. I told him what I thought of his "helpful" comments and shut down. Later he took our sleepless girl out in a car and was gone for an hour plus. I still had to put her to bed because she would not go to sleep with him. Today after work (he works from home) he got dressed and took them (the little ones) out in the car. I asked where they were going, he said he didn't know. I told him I would worry and I need to know where they are gonna be in case of emergency. He said "I'll call you if there is an emergency". I'm trying to be less clingy for the lack of a better word, I let him take them. But I'm so worried! Is it too much that I want to know where they are? He never took them both alone and it's hard to do that because they both run in different directions and it's getting dark and there is covid out there... Am I overreacting? Can one parent take kids somewhere and not tell the other parent where?? via /r/breakingmom https://ift.tt/2FjmpHq