Sunday, October 18, 2020

I (15M) told my 2 former friends (15M) (14M) that they may have been implied in a sex crime.


I replaced the real names in this story with fake names. I don't even know if this is that serious. I'm just so lost right now.I am a 15 year old male. Basically, my 2 friends who I will name Eric, another friend named David when they were 13 had a friend who I will name George. George was friends with a girl I will name Emma. Somehow, George obtained her nudes and when Eric and David had no internet they decided to have a group masturbation session to those nudes. They told me this story because they thought it was "funny." At first, I tried to downplay it and I kept silent about it. For context (and this is not to guilt trip, I legitimately think this is a major part of what happened) I was sexually abused and I tried to deny it for a complete year after it happened. But then one day I just realized, what they did was absolutely fucked and you can't just casually bring that up and laugh it off.Basically, I tried to tell the both of them that their friend George did something utterly fucked up. Showing random people someone's nudes without their consent is absolutely fucked. In order to keep them calm, I told them "you're not a sex criminal, your friend George is." So they kept talking to me, and it was absolutely as fucked as I thought it was. They did not obtain consent from that woman, that woman who was also underage when he nudes were shown to random people.The woman who had her nudes shown around was according to Eric, was still friends with George. And then they tell me later, that she already knew that her nudes were leaked. I tell him he needs to at the very least, go on an anonymous account and tell her that George leaked her nudes. So he does. This was the only way for him to contact the girl, because I had absolutely no knowledge of what the girl's name was before. Even though it is anonymous, as soon as I tell him to take action he chickens out and says that Jorge didn't do any sexual misdemeanor worth telling.He offers that I tell the girl myself. I decline. I say "all what you have to say is that Jorge leaked your nudes." He chickens out and tells me that his friends are telling him that she already knows that her nudes were leaked because George had also showed the nudes to more than just them and had actually spread them across the entire school. It was even worse than I thought. I say "Okay, that's great that she already knows that her nudes were leaked." But to double check, I ask him. "Did she know who leaked them?" He doesn't respond. Then he responds with he didn't know. Then he brings up again that she's still friend with Jorge. That alarms me. There is a massive chance she doesn't know who did it.I tell him this. "You need to tell her." He does so. He goes onto an anonymous account and says the following to the woman on Instagram."This is important 2 years ago George spread your nudes across the school, incase you didn't already know."I talk to his friend David, tell him the same thing but tell him he doesn't need to do anything since Eric already took care of it.I think that what I did was good. But then his friend David messages me 3 hours later with this." im tired of you bringing up this shit. i dont want to talk about it, i want fucking closure. i tell you about one fucking thing that happened when we were stupid kids and you have to bring up bad memories. your not doing anybody justice. your making us uncomfortable "I find out David has removed us from a groupchat that was meant for only me, Eric, and David. Both of these people were my really good friends, and it was clear to me that they had cut all ties with me.Then Eric texts me this.im fucked up right nowwhy did you open your mouthliterally ruined me and davids month, i feel like a pervert and a pedophile or somethingme telling her didnt do shit, she literally blocked the account and didnt say anythingim gonna be thinking about this for so longyou fucked me up bad dudesometimes you gotta keep your mouth shutplus my parents overheard itso they think im a weirdo nowi just am fucking pissed at this shitwhat were you trying to proveNot sure exactly what to do with these friends. I am only 15 and I don't know what decision to make. Eric has not blocked me and wants to stay friends, but David has blocked me and hates me now. Do I forgive my friends? They were not fully mentally mature when they did this. Or do I completely abandon them? via /r/relationship_advice https://ift.tt/34bnsT6

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