Hey everyone. I'm 26 (M) and my ex is 24 (F).We are both volunteer Firefighters and she was on my ambulance crew for a while. We became close friends and I helped her out of a seriously abusive relationship. I have had about 6 surgeries for injuries sustained in my military service and have always been extremely hesitant to get into a relationship after my divorce. I have posted on here before. I have something similar to phosjaw, two displaced disks, burns on my arms, and I am half deaf in my right ear, not to mention a brain injury. Bear with me, this is important.She began to flirt with me, and started coming over every day. When we started dating I had just been diagnosed with a brain cyst.I told her to leave me so we could stay friends, but she refused saying she "Wasn't like my ex" who had a kid that wasnt mine when I was recovering. She was extremely supportive and I couldn't live alone for a few weeks after my surgery as I was at risk of siezures. I went on med leave from my fire dept.Well. As it turned out, she started to push me away for two weeks before my first proceedure, and cut me off a day before. She claimed her parents didnt like that I owned guns, and that the fact that I'm a veteran who owns guns makes me "dangerous". I offered to sell my guns but she didn't care. She said she just "couldn't" talk to me and was going through a lot. She ghosted me 24 hours before my surgery.7 months later I am on duty at my station and we run into eachother and talk. She apologizes, and claims her parents thought I would "hurt her" (which broke my heart. I would literally rather die. I offered to sell my guns, NEVER threatened her, and when we broke up and she asked me not to contact her again I told her I would respect that). It turns out her mom wanted to get me kicked out of the rescue squad simply for owning guns after our breakup?Either way, that hurt bad. I explained to her what she did is damaging my current relationship, and asked her why she did what she did, as I felt used. She claimed she "Needed a friend" and we moved too fast. ( although she always denied that when we were together). She has gone back to her ex from what I have seen, and now wants to be friends with me.I offered to meet up for a coffee and she said not yet. To be honest this makes me feel like shit but when we were together she really did care from what I can tell. I'm drinking a bit too much and honestly I'm kinda broken over what she did. Do I cut her off or try and be friends?EDIT: I have it in writing from her that she never thought, nor had any reason to think I was dangerous, and that her mom just really hated me for owning guns. My career is safe. We are in Pensylvania if that changes anything as far as your advice goes regarding our interactions at work via /r/relationship_advice https://ift.tt/37j6J2p
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